Mrs. Chattrjee

She along with her Indian husband and 11 year old daughter visited Kolkata in 1982. I used to live with her brother in law, used to call him uncle and so we meet. This guys has deprived us of major share of our properties and also taken  my mother's ornaments. I dont wsih him well much.

Meanwhile, I have moved out of Kolkata, have issues with the uncle and no longer in touch with him. She has also got separated and her ex husband, no friend of mine, is no more. Her ex husband had given us the impression that she was in mental assylum. Few google searches revealed that she was well and kicking.

Twitter got us back in touch. A casual invitation from me was taken up and she came to visit us during 26th Dec-5th Jan. Yes, she left today.

In our present situation, it is not easy for us to host anyone at our home.It is a small place and Dona isnt keeping well last few months. Yet, we invited her. I dont fully understand why I accepted her in our home, may be my hatred for that uncle influence me to invite his beloved brother's Ex.

It turns up to be such a mixed experience.

She now lives in Dnmark. He daughter now is now pushing 40 and divorced twice and have a partner now. She got two kids. She is not much in touch with her daughter who seems to be busy with friends. She rued that grandparents in Denmark dont have any say in the affairs of their grandchildren.

She talked about her abhorence about bargaining since it could force thepoor seller to sell below cost price which would be exploitation. Yesterday, she came back from the floating market very happy that she has bargained something from 650 to have got it at 350 Bhat. She appeared very pleased with herself.

She went with us to Central world on 31st Dec and came back late at night after the firworks. I mentioned that I didnt expect her to stay up so late and she replied that she was quite gusty and she never complained.

She went to an orphanage where she was requested to distribute the gifts and she mentioned later that she didnt understand why she was asked to do it for no apparent reason. It didnt occur that she was shown respect due to her age. She didnt accept that she has aged. Aging with being wise is not fun atall.

She mentioned she is very flexible but wouldnt hesitate to not accept food that she didnt want. In restaurents, she would make her  choices not listening to our recommendations and often got something she couldnt have liked.

She lost couple of times in chess to our nine year old and mentioned that winning wasnt important and didnt agree with him that he had won.

She didnt ask us when did we get married, about Dna's family or anything very personal. She though mentioned that she didnt come to see Thailand but just to see how we lived our lives.

She mentioned her  Ex husband often would feel frustrated and grumble that he wasnt given noble prize. He was a cement chemist and such high expectation from self releaved inner madness in him.

We asked why she married him and whether anyone objected and she said that she didnt have one who would bother object about her marriage.

Very careful with money, she was floored by a smart tailor who referred to her as girl and make a dress spending 7000Bhat and also ran to a parlour. She later said she believed one can fall in love at any age.

I asked her when she would meet her daughter after returning back to Dnmark and she mentioned it would happen when her daughter would have time. Apparently the daughter was very busy with her friends.

Does she cooks? Yes, she liked boiled fish and eat it with sauce. She also like boiled vegeatbles. She promised to cook a meal and back some cakes but that didnt happen. She mentioned that she makes cheesecakes with lots of raisins.

What pictures this lady?

Sometimes, it is better to stay away to keep the respect and the image than risk being close for the mask could fall.

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